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10 Common Obstacles Connecting With our True Self

By jona bryndis, May 4 2019 09:00AM

Our inner journey of connecting with our True Self is nothing more than the process of remembering who we truly are - an eternal soul. Simple, basic and not special at all. However, on a practical level it can be one of the toughest journeys we will ever embark on! Read about the 10 most common obstacles of Facing our True Self and why we really need teachers, books, therapies, drugs, yoga or other ‘techniques’ to be who I AM.

Being connected with our True Self unlocks the deep understanding of ourselves and our Divine nature and also our higher abilities, such as healing and self-healing. It creates the unmistakable feeling of oneness in our heart accompanied with a yearning to be true to ourselves, others and our needs - basically, the calling to live our true potential and purpose in life.

But why is it that being true to oneself seems like such a big deal? Don’t we all have a True Self? Aren’t we the authority in matters of ourselves? What can we do to be more connected with our True Self? 


1. Critical Inner Voice

One of the most common reasons why we are not naturally connected with our True Self is because we think it makes us vulnerable.

From early on we became conditioned to believe that our True Self is something that is better kept locked away from others. At some point in our childhood we began to change. Our Ego was born! Instead of saying what we feel, asking for what we need and doing what felt right to us deep down, we began to listen to our critical inner voice. Worst of all, we didn't even notice how his inner voice slowly replaced our inner connection, and instead of signaling us our inner truth it perpetually reminded of those traumatic moments when we were vulnerable and got hurt. From then on, our ego's voice overtook our true voice and fed us with the urge to to either hide, escape or attack whenever our 'safety' felt threatened.

Henceforth, we decided to listen to the loudest voice in our head and began to identify with our rationalizations or justifications; we allowed our inner or outer dramas to become welcome distractions and to shut down our inner connection - as if our True Self was a dangerous stranger. Rather than following our intuition, our true needs and expressing how we really feel, we completely lost our ability to connect within!

We spent more energy to think about the future or the past than being present in the moment. 

What was supposed to be our journey of bringing our True Self into the physical is now replaced by our False Self! Needless to point out that listening to the constant chatter of our ego-voice is one of the greatest overall obstacles in remembering who we truly are! We pretend, please, protect, attack and project - we escape into identities and adapt to what is most successful in our ego's view. 

But don't feel bad about this - we all do!

Guess what happens if you do this long enough...? You forget who you truly are, you loose touch with your true needs and have no clue what your purpose is!

The way out of our False Self is to actively seeking the inner heart-connection through silencing your mind and emotion. Meditation, contemplation or Remote Energy transMISSIONS, but also simply spending more time in nature, with plants, animals and children can help. They remained pure and can therefore help us to remember our true nature. 

2. Distraction & Desensitization Through Collective Energies

A relatively unconscious aspect for most of us is the exposure to increasingly intense collective energies. Don't get me wrong; outer programming has always been part of our socialization, but since 2012 things have become a bit more intense, especially for those who are energetically sensitive. For many of us it's difficult to tell what's ours and what isn't - even physical sensations have become so random at times, that we are barely functional without knowing what's going on.

In the age of Global Awakening the discernment between outer programming, inner patterns and conditioned behaviors is beginning to become aware to us, but in order to not feel totally confused, we need to learn to build our very own lexicon of inner energetic sensations, so that we can cut through the 'stuff' that's not ours and begin to work on our inner layers of False Self and ego gratifications.

3. Spiritual Specialness

Consciousness Work and being a True Self has nothing to do with higher development, enlightenment, spiritual growth, ascension or something that we could only obtain as a result of fancy spiritual disciplines or teachings. True Self awareness or IAM Consciousness is nothing that we need to ‘develop’. It’s always there! All we need is to reach out, reconnect, remember, regularly touch base, and then follow through with it. However, the reason why we don't/won't or can't is because we are completely out of touch. Therefore, most of us feel prompted to seek guidance in from spiritual authorities, teachers or groups.

While still being disconnected from our inner core we can easily fall prey for inethical methods. One particularly difficult notion is spiritual elevation and specianess as practiced in many spiritual groups and teachings. The more we energize our ego with a false sense of specialness or ven 'badness' for that matter, the less probable a true inner connection becomes.

However, one of the most common and further disconnecting pattern is the installation of an 'inbetween' you and your Inner Divinity. Even the most popular spiritual communities (such as organized religion) promote that we cannot get to ... unless we follow certain rules or go through a certain person. Something to ponder about...

This changes the moment we reclaim our inner power! Once we understand that we are the only authority in being us, nobody can tell us what 'right' or 'wrong' for us, as we also begin to recognize authenticity and truth in others. However, on the other hand this doesn't mean that we are special either, it just means that we discovered the simplest truth out there!

We don't have to be chosen, or do anything to deserve being in touch with our Divine nature - we don't need to comply with rules, prerequisites, props or procedures either! All we 'need' in order to be a True Self is to be present, connect with our heart and stop looking for it outside (or above)!

We can CHOOSE to connect with our inner Divinity whenever we want to and at any time or place! Whenever somebody else tries to tell us who we are or what is right for us, it is most likely driven by a different agenda and often misleading us into a questionable sense of specialness.


4. Irresponsible Use of Energy

The essence of connecting with our True Self is about becoming in charge of who we are and consequently being accountable for our energy; for our actions, thoughts, and feelings, as well as for our contribution to the collective. Later we will learn that we also need to become responsible for our personal energy management and our energetic dynamics with others.

Living a life as True Self means to be touch with our heart, free of any kind of limitation and through it with the infinite aspect of our existence. In this state we become able to regard and respect ourselves and others as ‘a souls with a body’ as opposed to ‘a bodies with a soul’, which also implies to be willing to become aware of the deeper and often hidden aspects of our being that still control us.

In order to take full responsibility we need to relearn how to differentiate true and false. Our mind is not designed to do that. If we want to be a True Self we need to open our eyes for the unseen and accept inner truth as prime directive for our choices.

When following our inner prompting to become real we need to be prepared for a rough ride in the beginning. Learning how we were programmed in the past and beginning to see the amount of untrue beliefs we bought into is not always easy. Don’t be surprised to realize that collective misinformation and false idols often run so deep in you, that you may have completely lost your inner ability to discern truth from falsehood (for further reading on this subject check out: Dr. D. R. Hawkins, Truth vs. Falsehood, Veritas Publishing)!

5. Not Wanting to Face & See Truth

Truth means to be willing to see things the way they are – whether about ourselves or the world we live in. Let’s go there:

What kind of world do we live in? Are we ready to see how we are manipulated to think that our true purpose depends on status, job, material belongings, body shape, spiritual beliefs, culture, race or gender? That our happiness is something we need work ‘hard’ for or even to pay for?


6. Being Afraid of Change

Once we regained the willingness to accept truth we will begin to realize that it's often just a matter of changing our mental views and conditioned opinions. While truth has become a very bendable thing these days we can’t help but notice that we are unconsciously avoiding it, too. Even if we have the desire to see truth it can be extremely difficult sometimes to discern truth. Therefore, a big part of the ability to accept things the way they are is to come from a standpoint of compassion and neutrality. This allows us to break through some of the programmed behvavior of doubting and judging ourselves or others. We all grew up in a world where fake emotions, false identities and conditioned behaviors are rewarded with ‘success’!

Through connecting with our heart and seeking truth in our inner discernment we become able to face inner and outer challenges through our regained Wakefulness. This enables us to connect with the Source of Truth and thus allows us burn through all falsities - even our own.


7. Externalizing Inner Power

In addition, we will also become aware of how we were conditioned to externalize, not only of our happiness but also our inner powers. It can  why so many of us constantly feel empty and lonely. However, there is no need to be afraid of what we will discover. If we can look at it from the perspective that we were all born into a world where we were forced to cope with this intentionally created inner separation, we can more easily understand our tendency to keep ourselves busy seeking the distraction of the next high or temporary excitement.

The good thing about facing truth is that it can help us to put the puzzle pieces of our fragmented self back together.  Knowing that we all are more or less remote controlled also helps to become a bit more wakeful and less naive, for example in regards to processed foods, environment, meds, vaccines, politics, wars, etc. The information has always been out there, we just couldn't see it...


To become more wakeful in regards to global control aspects it's not necessary to study prophecies, metaphysics or delve into conspiracy theories. It doesn’t take rocket science to explain why today’s societies are so manipulated. Our world is overpopulated, obnoxious and ego-driven. The current overall consciousness level of humanity derives around pride, greed, competition and war-making. It doesn’t really take much effort to control us and see those dualistic paradigms self-propel. All it takes is to tap into our unprocessed (lower chakra) emotions, wounds, fears and desires to trap our minds in agreeing to mask our sense of Self and beat-up others and ourselves.

As a result instead of feeling one with who we are, we allow ourselves to be collectively driven into separation, just so we can have the illusion of being better or in control. While under the influence we simply can't see how we subconsciously further self-perpetuate our chosen inner disconnect.

8. Illusion Of Control & Superiority

Control always creates counter-control, and so it's not surpising that our inner control issues make us controllable in return. The hardest part about becoming true to ourselves is being humble enough to admit our part in supporting collective paradigms of phoniness. Unless we step up and own our past, our shadows, hidden negative sentiments and secret payoffs, truth will remain something we rather choose to avoid.


So, here is what we really are up against: Not the fact that we are controlled by some mysterious external force (which may well be the case, but who cares, we are already doing a great job at it ourselves), but that we fell for our own lower control, fear and specialness mechanisms and with it the subjugation of control over our inner connection. 

In order ro reclaim our True Self we need to remember who we truly are and that means that we cannot hide away from the immanent reality of our own control aspects, whether it'd be in regards to Masculinity or Femininity, racial/cultural differences or spiritual orientation.

The truth of the matter is that we are all the same!


9. False Self & Coping

The only way out of being externally controlled is to become bone-crushing honest with ourselves:


"Yes, I bought into the illusions of a false self! And yes, it made me easy prey for unreflected consumerism, it fueled my payoff through victimhood and addictions and instant gratification allowed me to distract my self from myself. In my undifferentiated need to belong to somebody or some cause it made me agree to toxic compromises and lowered my will to stand up for my true needs. And further yes, I even fell for the delusion to be able to fix the world or others avoiding to look at my own unhealed aspects - all just to elevate my ego and to justify my familiarity with a deep inner pain of not feeling whole."

If we can liberate ourselves through this confession to ourselves we've made farther than half the way!


10. Judging & Hiding One's Ego

The last and biggest obstacle to overcome is the fear of facing our ego and the subsequent question: "If I am not who I believe I am, who am I then?"

Reconnecting with our True Self means to be willing to break through all layers of conceived False Self. Deep down we all know that letting go of illusions means to let go of our perceived ego payoff. Therefore, understand that what's really holding you back is not the fear of truth itself, but the fear of the unknown consequences of seeing truth.



As long as our views and inner perception of self are linked to the idea that our True Self is something we need to obtain, sustain or seek it outside of us, we unwillingly set ourselves up for further disconnection and emptiness. This is where active and heart-based consciousness work can help us realize that facing inner control and fear aspects is more healing than frightening - and that all that’s needed is to remember how to reconnect with our True Self.


This may seem a bit like a laundry-list of things of things we need to correct or make good for. It can be overwhelming not to have a solution or a fix right away. Moreover, admitting these obstacles to ourselves can make us even more vulnerable for a moment; but if we can get over it - we will learn how to truly connect with our hearts, with others and the world around us in return - the biggest reward of all!

Being a True Self means being able to give ourselves full absolution for our innocence of unawareness in the past and thus taking the opportunity to live a life free of the limitation of collective programming and false conditioning.


My love and  gratitude to all of you with courage to engage in such a journey!


Thank you for your time.



jona bryndis

Energy Coach & Founder of transCODES


transCODES offers a service and online community platform for everyone who is interested in exploring his or her deeper aspects of heart connection, heightened energetic perception, spiritual self-awareness and sacred self-healing. Our trained energy workers provide hands-on education, guidance and energy coaching/healing services for energetically sensitive persons and anyone who feels prompted to engage in active consciousness work and integrative self-mastery. transCODES energy work is non-religious and not bound to any specific teaching or methodology.

In remote energy session, guided meditation work, group coaching work and personal energy coaching sessions we offer hands-on support and practical guidance to those on their journey of personal growth and spiritual maturity. This includes energetic clearing work, karma, trauma, inner child, recovery, shadow, manifestation and spiritual integration. Our work is often perceived as highly challenging as it addresses our deeply conditioned and programmed ego attachments, which is exactly what allows a person to grow beyond their own limitations.

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